NOW, you should prepare by obtaining the following:
I. For giving to a priest:
- 1 pound rice, ½ pound toor dal, ½ cup red chilies, ¼ cup coriander seeds
- 1 plantain; ¼ pound okra if available; 1 chayote squash if available; ½ pound green beans; 2 zucchinis
- $50 Cash
II. For performing the ritual:
- Your mother’s photograph
- ¼ cup rice, ¼ cup “black sesame seed” (black mustard if you can’t get sesame seed), 1 teaspoon of turmeric, 1 teaspoon of kumkum, 2 flowers, 2 bananas, a pitcher of water, a glass, a teaspoon, a vessel
- A proper attitude and a calm mind
THEN, you should perform the shrāddha:
Sieve these things
with old hymns
sons must sing,
Join the voices,
sound and meter,
earth and ether.
Memory is your mother now,
speak to her, she’ll show you how.
Honor all the things I taught you
and the people you belong to.
When you journey to the crossing,
she will gather these cast-off things.
Take those hidden ghosts of being,
knit them close, a raft of meanings.
NOW, you have finished. Take the piṇḍa and leave them outside: for the birds.